If you haven’t read my Hello World post or been to my About Me page I identified my relationship status as “happily single”. There was a time where I was looking for companionship and felt lonely. My previous relationship wasn’t the best by-far but you get use to having someone around. Not going to bore you with everything it took to get to where I am; just wanted to share a few key things that really helped me.
1. Be complete…on your own.
Give yourself time to sort things out. Learn more about yourself before you take on others. Without a self -improvement/evaluation (not saying you did something wrong) you are extremely vulnerable and desperate for love. This tends to cloud judgement overlooking “red flags” which can put you in the same position you were before (if not worse).
Repeating the cycle.
So naturally, you’ll think there’s something wrong with you! Well, yeah, you’re not giving yourself enough time to truly heal in between relationships.
2. Look at your breakup as an opportunity.
Think of all the things that were hindered or put on-hold because of the relationship. If you cannot find anything, start a bucket list, find a hobby, volunteer someplace, start a blog! Occupy your time with other things.
If all else fails find some good shows (nothing sappy) to binge watch; get caught up in someone else’s shenanigans.
3. Sometimes you have to fake it till you make it.
Start by simply saying you are happily single.
It can be a hard process at first. After awhile it is my hope that you’ll start truly believing that you are happily single. Or at the very least you given yourself enough time evaluate yourself and past relationships and know what you want and don’t want and stick with it!
Are there any good relationship stories out there? Is anyone also celebrating their singleness?
Please share in the comments…I love a good a story!